Ten tips on surviving life - Part 2

6.  Relationships – memory mapping

 Ok relationships take time and effort but a lot of it is simpler than it seems, I am going to do a quick write up on memory mapping as I cannot find the material I researched before at present. Now this is mainly for the men. Basically women’s brains working in the terms of mind mapping, so all those things you do like forgetting to do a household chore, lose money gambling on football, excessively drinking, now these do seem like obvious flaws but what’s actually happening is the mind map works in a style of database where females file certain characteristic’s such as wealth, job, reliability, loyalty, physical attributes and like everything in life it relates back to children on the basic level without thinking about it we are both men and women cataloguing attributes to weather a family is possible following are biological instincts. The best example I have of this is recall a former argument with your girlfriend or wife and out of nowhere the lady of the relationships goes from just shouting at you about not doing the washing up but then switches the argument to when you brushed passed a girl in a club four months ago, this is her accessing her mind map to test your loyalty and commitment to her and your possible future family. I have ultra respect for women I am not trying to put them down by saying this but it is useful to know in understanding arguments. 

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7. Taking shit from the boss

 Now this quote was from a good friend of mine and it goes “Tick all the boxes” now what does this mean, basically to succeed in your workplace and avoid getting into trouble whatever is asked of you no matter how silly it is (managers and boss’s are not always the top of the pyramid like they would have you believe) get it done then use this to defend your case when being shouted at, they cant shout at you if you have done what they asked, it is then their fault for bad instructions. Ticking the boxes can also be used to your advantage when asking for a promotion. When in a personal development review for example go in armed with a list of what has been asked of you and how you have achieved it, then once your employer is aware of the facts you can then negotiate.  It sound obvious and I am sure you have thought of it before but I liked the quote and thought it deserved a mention. I personal do not use it very often as my incentives are rarely financial but I should do!

8. Children

 Now however you look at it in my opinion after spending nearly twelve hours on a pretty much abandoned beach in India staring at the sea putting the world in its place. I realised that life revolves around children in nearly every aspect. We grow up gain experience, make loads of mistakes and go through many relationships until we get mentally stable enough to raise children and properly support them in every aspect of their life’s from educating them at home, working to keep a roof over their head and food in their belly’s. It almost seems to me it used to be especially around the 30 year old mark is when most people start to have kids its either panicking realise their getting old or how I like to think of it that they have gone down every road making every mistake so that they can only teach their kids how not to make the same mistakes. I personally am not matured enough to have kids and my heart goes out to my love ones who do have kids the best father I know being my age for what he does is amazing really I certainly could not do what he does and I end up acting just as immature if not more than the kids haha. Having children is a totally selfless act everything becomes about the children and it will dictate your life so the lesson is be prepared I am not really addressing the current parents I take my hat off to you, I am more addressing the youth not using proper protection as there is a lot of you, and as much as I try to help people (turns out I cant get a birth control pill for a friend from a doctor) it will change your life so plan ahead don’t just deal with it when it happens. Get it right and I am a firm believer it would be one of the best triumphs in life.   

  

    9.  Research – stop asking why and actually look it up

 Now I am guilty of this one but I do try my best we always have questions floating around and often we like to just blame people instead of engaging the issue. For example with the current student riots, Tax increases and petrol prices the majority of us like to be fed the information in the sense of newspapers and the six o clock news and play the blame game of “it’s the governments fault” or propaganda forced to create hostility between the lower classes so we get so wrapped up in blaming the latest scapegoats “Foreigners”, “Benefit scandals” “The Muslim religion” that we don’t look to what’s really happening. Best ways of researching I find is to look at the history of the subject and see what’s happened in the run up to were we are now then try to think of how it will pan out in the future.

10. Repetition – the father of learning

 Repetition is how we learn, it allows us to improve on tasks, weather its working on a packing line or lifting barbells we have what’s called “Muscle memory” for physical activities where the body recalls doing previous tasks and allows us to do it easier once we have “programmed” our body to do the desired task.  The mental side of the body responds in the same way association between shapes, colour and numbers when were kids to learning how to drive, basically keep at it and you will learn it by doing it over and over again. Repetition is annoying but a very valid lesson in how we operate so if you can master it you will acquire knowledge faster with patients.

 Even though this is ten tips I can’t stress how important this one is QUESTION EVERYTHING! Especially my own writing as there is always going to be holes in text or a better way of organising the data.  I have already thought of more but I will keep it short and sweet(ish).